ICASA offers experiential and educational courses of training in becoming a certified professional ICASA Sexual Surrogate Partner, Mentor or Therapist. It is also an ideal complementary training for counsellors and therapists who wish to better understand Surrogate Partner Therapy. The Centre for ICASA opened in the UK in 1994. The founders, David and Jane Brown, had returned to England after a number of years in a U.S. medical facility specialising in the treatment of male impotency and other related sexual dysfunctions. David and Jane trained and managed a team of counsellors and studied and used the methods of Masters and
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It is a very common thing to hear people say: “Of course, sex isn’t everything…” They are wrong. Sex is at the heart of everything. Of course, there is a grain of truth in what they say. Sex isn’t every thing—it is the Source of Everything. Every thing owes its existence to sex. What we call “sex” is at the centre of all manifestation, throughout the Universe; even the “Big-Bang” was a cosmic orgasm—combustion of masculine and feminine energy.Sex is the fundamental force in every being, the most powerful force in Nature: the evidence of The Source of All. Sex
Have you ever experienced an awareness of your body being in one place while your mind is in another? At such times you will find yourself acting like a sort of spectator at your own event. This is particularly common amongst men who have performance anxiety. You may be in bed with your partner but your mind is somewhere else completely; somewhere ‘out there’ looking down on yourself. Such men are spectators at the humiliation of themselves. They witness an agonising spectacle organised by their ‘disobedient penis’; an apparent punishment for simply being born. Riddled with guilt and engulfed with
To understand the second principle, we must even dispense with the concept of a self-existing Universe. Our galaxy, of which our solar system occupies the spatial equivalent of a cupboard under the stairs in a vast country mansion, is now known by astronomers to be like an infinitesimal sphere within hundreds of billions of galaxies, clusters and super-clusters of galaxies within an infinite Universe. As we explore ever deeper, beyond our immediate neighbourhood in space, dimensions change and our perceptions change along with them. Time dissolves into infinity. We lose the linear relativity consciousness that goes along with our three dimensional vision. Everything we cherish as real dissipates
Reality and Fantasy It is amazing how many people, in this case both men and women in equal numbers, hold an image in their mind of lovemaking being an experience that should always happen spontaneously. Just like the Hollywood movies, the lovers gaze at each other, music starts to play; fires within are ignited, clothes are ripped off and lovemaking occurs automatically. Nobody speaks a word; only music and beautiful camera angles. Afterwards, the two are inevitably in love and will live together happily ever after. “Real life” is rarely like that. At the beginning of surrogate partner therapy, the
The first step to trust is learning to communicate genuinely and sincerely with yourself. You probably tend to think that there is little you can do about your “negative” thoughts and feelings because you assume that, for the most part, feelings just come and go as they please and that you have little power to influence them. You will tend to hide those feelings you dislike or want to deny, hoping they will go away, and show only those that are considered acceptable. For intimacy to be enjoyed without anxiety it is important to acknowledge your fears, desires and fantasies,
A surrogate partner is neither prostitute nor princess; She is neither maiden nor crone; She is not defined by age, appearance or by conventional social morality. She is a Woman of The Light; a sexual healer. A surrogate partner gives herself to others for their healing and happiness; She proves them to be whole. Like a child who has learned to walk, he overcomes his fears, and then disappears; She is forgotten, though forever remembered. A surrogate partner loves others as an aspect of the Beloved; She is defined by whom she is within. She cries, laughs, loves and
‘The Spirit was indivisible, existing alone in the home of infinity Even as thus, the One became two: spirit and nature, man and woman, positive and negative, peacock and peahen, the jewel of male and female. Paramahansa Yogananda There are
When the mind is mentioned, most people automatically think merely of the physical brain. This is, indeed, a marvellous organ. Like a ‘super computer’ hard drive, the brain holds more memory than the greatest and most powerful computer on earth. Its intricacy is beyond the knowledge of the most learned scientists. It is not, however, the originator of all impressions. The brain is a receiver through which we translate impressions into thoughts, concepts and concrete information; just as a radio or TV set is the receiver of invisible waves, beamed from a source of signals and transformed into intelligible information.
Intimate relationships can either be stressful and performance- centred, creating anxiety and disillusionment, or they can be relaxing, blissful, and ecstatic. A good experience can aid a healthy body and mind and heal the emotions. A bad experience can be stored in the body for a life-time. The dividing line between these two may appear to be a thin tight rope; on one side of the line there exists a positive sexual relationship and on the other side there exists an abyss of negativity, sorrow, heartbreak and misery. The dividing line may appear to be thin but is an enormous