No More Premature Ejaculation

2017-11-06T15:22:07+00:00

Premature ejaculation is when a man consistently ejaculates involuntarily.  Ejaculation should be the result of a conscious decision. There is no ‘normal’ time sexual intercourse should take but the normal expectation should be that on most occasions, a man ejaculates when he chooses to do so.  This should, of course, be at a time when his partner is ready for him to ejaculate. In order to teach men ejaculatory control, traditional sexual therapy routinely emphasises the practice of external techniques such as the "Squeeze Technique", made famous by Masters and Johnson in the 1960's. While this and other rather outdated

The Beauty and the Mystery of the Genitals

2017-10-12T12:13:56+00:00

Have you ever considered your genitals to be beautiful?  Then again, can you look at your partner’s genitals and see beauty in much the same way as you might see beauty when you look in their eyes? Were you taught that genitals were ‘dirty’?  Were you told not to touch your genitals because it is ‘disgusting’? By opening yourself to the beauty of genitals, you can integrate your whole body, mind and soul rather than segregating yourself into separate and divided entities called ‘sexual parts’ and ‘non-sexual parts’. We all have body feelings originating from memories ‘stored’ in the genitals. 

Fifth Stage of Sexual Development – Metaphysical

2017-06-28T12:43:12+00:00

The first four Stages of Sexual Development that have so far been described in these blogs use energy from the physical body for fuel, culminating in an explosive release of energies into the environment. They are necessary, to feed nature. Innocent Sex has very little energetic substance, being mostly passive. In some cases, however, it can release significant quantities of dense energy that sustains states such as anxiety and fear. Instinctual Sex sustains animal life, Primal Sex feeds vegetation and Power Sex feeds the world’s ego. The fifth stage, Metaphysical Sex, feeds the soul and also feeds relationships. This stage is inaccessible to those stuck in Outside-In, or Simple

Fourth Stage of Sexual Development – Power

2017-05-22T11:55:52+00:00

If an individual is in this stage of sex, especially within a relationship, they will experience a power struggle, felt not just in sex but also throughout all other aspects of life. If attempts to overcome the lack of self-control at the primal stage of sex have been unsuccessful, one or other partners will attempt to establish external control. This strategy does not work, real control is found within. For people living at this level, situations and circumstances keep repeating. Destructive relationships, financial difficulties and sexual problems won’t go away. They keep showing up irrespective of location or relationship partner. Imagine what it must

Third Stage of Sexual Development – Primal

2017-05-22T11:55:52+00:00

This level of sex provides an opportunity to evolve to Simple Sex. Relationships are usually the catalyst for this first metamorphosis. Unfortunately, not everyone makes this transition, even through a relationship of love. When one partner is still attached to Outside-In Sex while the other is ready for Simple Sex, there is fertile ground for deep conflict and potential schism. It can be puzzling for a couple to discover deep conflicts and strife emerging within their relationship when everything on the surface appears to be compatible. The differences between Outside-In and Simple Sex, however, exist at the unseen levels of consciousness and energy. The goal

Five Stages of Sexual Development

2017-05-22T11:55:52+00:00

First Stage of Sexual Development: Innocence It would be naive and inaccurate to say that the human being is asexual when he or she is born as a baby. Of course, that is what we like to think as we look at the little innocent laying in the cradle, yet sexual development starts immediately. The newly born begins to sense the essential distinctions of the feminine and masculine energies of parents, brothers, sisters and other relatives and friends. Through the senses of touch, hearing, taste, smell, and sight, the baby experiences the pleasurable–and not so pleasurable–aspects of these other life energies. Discovering life energies through the

How To Eradicate Loneliness Forever

2017-05-22T11:55:52+00:00

  Millions of people, everywhere across the globe, are affected adversely by a sense of loneliness. It is a problem of pandemic proportions throughout the world today, causing misery, sickness and suicides on a massive scale. Can anything be done to cure loneliness? Are we simply victims of our condition—or do we possess the power to control our circumstances? Maybe you are like many people who are fatalistic, thinking that genes, heredity, environment and social status cause personal circumstances; they believe that these are the reasons for their failures, struggles or disadvantages. On the other hand, observation of the history

The Life Changing Secret to Never Again Having to Say “How Was That For You”?

2017-01-11T14:47:25+00:00

Most men and women today believe that the aim of intimate touch is to achieve pleasure in their partner. But this mistaken belief is the seed of all performance anxiety. As a result, many men and women are anxious about sex and intimate relationships. They worry about whether they will be able to please their partner. They wonder if they are ‘doing it right’. Men are insecure about their ability to touch and to make love in such a way that fulfils their partner. “How was it for you?” they ask after love-making, concerned that she may not be satisfied;

Fear of Intimacy and Pornography

2017-05-22T11:55:53+00:00

“Pornographic addiction”—or obsessive, excessive use of pornography—is defined as the repeated use of pornographic material until it causes serious negative consequences to one's physical, mental, social, or financial well-being. A large percentage of people, who are attached to porn, experience difficulties in personal relationships; they tend to isolate themselves from friends and even their family. Excessive use of porn may also lead to sexual dysfunctions such as erection problems, premature or inhibited ejaculation. There is now widely read research published online that claims another aspect of pornographic addiction: changes that occur in the brain when one spends a considerable time

Awareness

2016-06-24T12:21:35+00:00

Have you ever experienced an awareness of your body being in one place while your mind is in another?  At such times you will find yourself acting like a sort of spectator at your own event.  This is particularly common amongst men who have performance anxiety. You may be in bed with your partner but your mind is somewhere else completely; somewhere ‘out there’ looking down on yourself. Such men are spectators at the humiliation of themselves.  They witness an agonising spectacle organised by their ‘disobedient penis’; an apparent punishment for simply being born.  Riddled with guilt and engulfed with