Most men and women today believe that the aim of intimate touch is to achieve pleasure in their partner. But this mistaken belief is the seed of all performance anxiety. As a result, many men and women are anxious about sex and intimate relationships. They worry about whether they will be able to please their partner. They wonder if they are ‘doing it right’. Men are insecure about their ability to touch and to make love in such a way that fulfils their partner. “How was it for you?” they ask after love-making, concerned that she may not be satisfied; that they may not be a good lover. “What is she thinking?”, “I’m not very good at sex”, “I bet she thinks I’m rubbish in bed”.
Performance Anxiety becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy when you consistently believe that you are failing your partner, that only by ‘improving your performance’ will you make the difference. Through experience you will find that the harder you try, the worse the problem becomes. “I will never get it right; never be able to please a partner. Something must be wrong with me”.
The endless cycle of self consciousness and worry is because you are at the centre of the cycle and the more you focus on yourself the greater your problems appear. This kind of self-consciousness creates self-criticism, self-condemnation and self-loathing.
There is a hidden key—a “secret” that has been lost in our achievement-centred culture—that can help you to destroy performance anxiety completely and forever. This life-changing secret is accessible to everyone, and will completely revolutionise your sex life.
As a result of using this secret technique to touch and caress your intimate partner, you will be automatically:
· surprised
· relieved
· delighted
· complimented
· popular
Maybe you’re sceptical; you are an intelligent, intellectual man. You may doubt that any of this applies to you. On the other hand, it could be time to honestly look inside yourself and to reappraise your approach to sex, women and relationships. The misconceptions projected by society have affected us all. By challenging and confronting them you can deal with the very roots of performance anxiety.
