Many men secretly hate their penis and are at war with it.  They think that it should perform at all times on demand and that they are being betrayed and let down by it. They come to expect failure and their experience lives up to their expectations – a ‘self-fulfilling prophesy’. Many women are anxious about intimacy and sexual relationships. They worry about whether they are pleasing their partners. They wonder if they are doing it ‘right’... A lot of women are insecure about their ability to make love in such a way that is fulfilling for them and their

A fundamental error is made when people talk of sex as though it were one and the same thing for everybody. This fatal flaw in understanding has grown throughout the world for centuries, with sex judged as being either ‘good’ or ‘bad’, depending upon morality viewed through the social customs of a particular culture. There are three distinct and apparently contrasting Types of Sex accessible by every adult man and woman. The first type of sex is what I call ‘Outside-In Sex’.  This sex type appears to be modern and progressive but is ultimately harmful and damaging to the psyche,

Whenever the mind is mentioned most people automatically think of the brain, but there is far more to the mind than the physical organ in our head. The balanced man or woman is aware of their thoughts. They are able to observe their thoughts as they occur and to distinguish between thoughts that are benign from those that are malevolent. No longer buffeted by renegade thoughts and feelings, split into many contradictory and conflicting parts, the balanced man or woman experiences themself as in charge of their own actions. An intimate relationship with a balanced man or woman is based on

The old saying that “sex is in the mind” is nowhere truer than at this starting point. It is said: “for the man whose mind is mastered it is his greatest friend, but for he whose mind is not mastered it remains his greatest enemy”. The rational, analytical intellect, although it may be one of man’s greatest strengths in work or professional life, is the greatest weakness in intimacy and in sexual relationships. Einstein described insanity: “doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results.” To open up the ‘Gateway’ to sexuality without anxiety, individuals and couples